Love is one of the most over-used words in the English language. Love should be a verb but we often treat it like a noun. Here are some ideas for loving your husband.
Hold Your Tongue
Most people like to talk. Some people like silence. Others like to be listened to. Try to be quiet for your husband’s sake. Be quiet so that his ears can rest or so that he has a chance to talk to you. If your husband chooses to talk, you need to listen.
Practice what you Preach
Wisdom literature is popular. For those who like simplicity the chicken soup style of quote collections are a popular way for people to consume nuggets of wisdom. It is easy to spew these little nuggets out without giving thought to the meaning.
Instead of throwing wisdom at your husband when he annoys you, practice the wisdom you’ve learned. He might get more out of your behavior than your words.
Patience
One of the ickier things about the verb love is the need to practice patience. We are told that we live in an instant gratification society. Unfortunately, it is true. People who enjoy instant gratification seldom understand patience. Patience isn’t fun – especially if the issue that requires patience doesn’t get fixed instantly. However, if you are patient, you are less irritable and therefore much easier to live with.
Kindness
Kindness is doing the little things (that while unnecessary add up to the simple pleasures of life or cancel the little frustrations) and doing them with a smile. A little consideration and a pleasant attitude is a gentle oil that reduces friction. For instance, put new toilet paper on the roll (the direction he likes it).
Be Content
Sometimes it is hard not to be jealous of your husband. There are times, when you resent the fact that he is watching television after having vacuumed the floor and you are still folding laundry. Get over it. Jealousy and anger often lead to bitterness and bitterness ruins a relationship.
It is also important to be content with your life. If you complain too much about your life, it may seem to your husband that he does not satisfy you.
Acceptance
Sometimes relationships find themselves mired in a war of comparisons. The result is that one or both parties find a secret pleasure when the other person screws up. We try to elevate ourselves by keeping a checklist of the other person’s wrongdoing. Stop comparing yourself to your spouse. Accept who he is, you married him.
Be Positive
Borrow a little attitude from Pollyanna, look for the good in your spouse and let him know that you see it. You might have to be a bit sneaky telling him. Some men cringe when subjected to over-exuberant praise. Find a suitable way and let your husband know you appreciate his good qualities.
There is a wonderful side effect from praising your husband. You find that you don’t notice his faults so much because they don’t matter so much.
The Gift of Generosity
There are generous and compassionate people on this earth. Generosity works like a magnet. However, generosity depletes a person. Often the well from which generosity is withdrawn is from the relationships of those closest to you.
It is easy to ignore the needs of those closest to you. The hardest type of generosity is to put your own needs second and consider the needs of the person who stands next to you day in and day out.
Wrapping It Up
Did you know that most of this can be reduced to a simple and well-known axiom? Treat others, as you would wish to be treated. A simple yet golden little rule. Now go love on your husband!
Note: Any resemblance between this article and 1 Corinthians 13 is intentional.
