These true stories illustrate the foundational qualities of good in-law relationships.
Some years ago, a young man burst through the door of his parents' home and announced that he had just met a couple who would be his parents' future best friends. That couple happened to be the parents of his new girlfriend. And the young man was right. Now the parents are all in-laws--and best friends.
Last month in Wichita, Kansas, a groom stood up at his wedding rehearsal dinner and gave an emotional speech. In it, he thanked his bride's parents for their respect and kindness.
Writer Dee Brestin once asked her sister what it was that made her sister's mother-in-law so special. Her sister replied, "I was drawn to her because of the way she loved me....Her actions, her eyes, and her smile told me....If she sensed I was troubled she would say, 'I hope you know how very much I love you.'" (from The Friendships of Women)
My mother-in-law taught me how to make pie and homemade pizza. But all the while, she was careful not to displace me in my own new kitchen. She asked how I wanted things done and where I wanted things stored, even though--since I was new to home management--my methods changed frequently and haphazardly.
These stories illustrate the foundational qualities of good in-law relationships: Respect. Kindness. A readiness for friendship. Open love. Acceptance. Isn't this what we all want? Is this what we are all willing to give?
