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» tgrubb1 - Sister-In-Law w/ bipolar

I have a new sister-in-law and the relationship has turned sour, but I am the one who is being hurt by it all. I guess I just wanted to understand if this was a bipolar thing or is it a sister-in-law thing. Either way I need to let it go, but I am having trouble. It is complicated and a long story. My husband and I are closer to my family (Dad, brother and sister). Though it has always been difficult to get close to my Dad and brother. My brothers new wife at first was great. We could chat about anything and probably some things we shouldn't have (before marriage to my brother). Now it seems as if she is looking to try t create a reason for not including me and my family in their lives and truthfully my brother was not that involved anyway. But the rejection hurts. My husbands side of the family is just too negative and are hard to interact with as well. I really dont' think the problem is me, I don't try to create problems, but one of his sisters also says hurtful things (I am not just being oversensitive), like, she doesn't want to subject her kids to our family. I know you are wondering if there is a reason she'd say this but truthfully, there is none. She also has a history of problems. I am not sure how this is going to work, but I wanted to try to see if someone could give me some advice about sister-in-law relationships and are they usually at odds or what? Maybe I am just too nice, but I don't like having to push people away because of bad behavior, but I don't like being hurt all the time either.

-- posted by tgrubb1

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» rklbond2 - sister-in-law

Wow. This sounds like a tough situation. It reminds me of the value of friendships that are outside of the family. Our friends can give us relief from and perspective on trying family relationships (and vice versa). Good friendships can also give you the emotional energy necessary to work on sticky family situations. A good friend can also see things that we can't see. How are your friendships doing? Can you get any help from them?

-- posted by rklbond2

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