Marriage

» rklbond2 - help at home!

I'm not sure why the role of "home manager" falls to the woman most often--whether it's a cultural thing, a society thing, or...conceivably a gender strength.
My newly married nephew told me that he cannot concentrate on more than one thing at a time. Like he can't listen to someone talking to him while he is fixing a bicycle, say. He has to stop one to do the other. He's just wired that way.
I wonder if women, the vast majority of whom, seem to be able to keep more things in mind at once, just naturally make better home managers. I'm not trying to be stereotypical here, and everyone can feel free to disagree with me. But the home manager role is so unique, dealing with the concrete as well as the emotional at the same time...well, it's not a job just anyone can do.
But, being a home manager doesn't mean doing every piece of work in the house. Definitely not! Doing work is part of taking responsibility and growing up.
Sometimes couples divide responsibility, even though the wife, as home manager, tends to be the one in charge of keeping tabs on and communicating the needs of the household to every one involved.
My friend does the finances for her household, and her husband traded her the laundry duty for it.
My nephew loves finances, and his new wife happily lets him handle that while taking over the things he doesn't like to do.
Dale and I, because of his business, operate two different households. Once we tried to BOTH be the managers of one of the households at the same time. Did not work! Talk about communication collision!
Perhaps a planning meeting with hubby in which you look at all the areas of household responsibility together and divide them up?

-- posted by rklbond2